If you are having an emotional or psychological crisis, you need to find and get help right away.
The National Alliance on Mental Health hotline is open M – F 10am-6pm ET. Or you can use the Crisis Text Line by texting HOME to 741741.
If you are not in immediate crisis, there is still so much to do. Take your time. There’s no deadline in recovery from grief and trauma.
Get in touch with a trained, licensed mental health professional. This will be THE MOST helpful. There are support groups that can be useful too. Reading the accounts of other SGA’s can provide some validation.
3HO SGA’s Elsewhere:
Therapy & Counseling
- Open Path Collective – Sliding Scale Affordable Therapy
- Open Counseling – Free or Affordable Therapy
- Colleen Russell, LMFT: Leads a video-call support group for people raised in cults
Articles, Journals, Media & Activist Groups:
- Generation Cult: A Podcast for SGA’s hosted by Dhyana Levy
- Survivors of Institutional Abuse
- Safe Passage Foundation
- TM Free Blog – blog by a SGA raised in Transcedental Meditation, or TM
- Escaping Utopia: Growing up in a Cult, Getting Out and Starting Over – book by author and sociologist Janja Lalich
- From Maharaj to Mahan Tantric: The Construction of Yogi Bhajan’s Kundalini Yoga – scholarly paper by Philip DeSlippe, UC Santa Barbara
- ICSA resources for SGA’s : https://www.icsahome.com/elibrary/topics/second-generation-adults
Related groups on Reddit:
- r/C-PTSD – a support group for those affected by Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder
- r/shambhalabuddhism – a support group for “Dharma Brats”, people raised in Shambhala International
- r/exMormon – ex Mormon support group
- r/exJW – ex Jehova’s Witness support group
- r/Troubled Teens – Discussions around Institutional Child Abuse
- r/adultsurvivors – Adult Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse
- r/survivorsofchildabuse – (private group)
What is an “SGA”?
An SGA is a Second Generation Adult raised in a group that requires a high demand of commitment to a particular cause, belief system or ideology. In this case the group is 3HO Sikh Dharma Kundalini Yoga.
Who counts as a 3HO SGA?
Any person who was raised in 3HO for any period during childhood is an SGA. Backgrounds among SGA’s can be diverse (one does not have to be an “indiakid” to feel the impact of being raised in this group). The thing SGA’s have in common is that they did not choose it for themselves during childhood. Because of the commitment required by 3HO to the faith, being brought up within it creates a unique set of challenges for navigating an independent life.
Those unique circumstances can include becoming distant or even cut-off from family and community. Sometimes 3HO family members and peers may want to help or provide companionship, yet are unable or incapable of providing critical support. Sometimes our family of origin wants to show love, but the capacity for it is limited to their cult-informed identity, and therefore falls short.