"…the fear of creating failure for your child is great enough to make us do wild things".

Speak for yourself.

"Wild things" are not an option in realistic and thoughtful parenting. It takes diligence, vigilance and discipline to be a good parent. Parenting is NOT handing your child to someone else who you barely know. That's called NOT parenting. That's expecting someone else to do your work for you. That's LAZINESS.

If you send your child to boarding school in India, not only are you lazy, you are caught up in a dogma that is causing you to make very poor decisions on behalf of an individual's life who dearly depends on you to protect and nurture. Too bad.

I can't tell you how many times i've been called uncle by a indian ( and i'm not even indian)

Seems like it's a term of endearment or respect more than a label for kin.

Also, The village raising a child refers to the concept of us being limited by, or comprised of, our total experience.

If you are a parent yet you will definitely know by now that the fear of creating failure for your child is great enough to make us do wild things… like send your kid to India.

However, most of our short-commings and our faults can be exposed by allowing the 'outsiders' perspective into our bubble. Not an easy thing to do. Why not expose your child to the perspective of another trusted community member.. thus the village.

I may choose to send my child to India when the time comes… just not when he/she is 7 like i was when i went.

One question? why delete so many comments? what happened to the open dialog?

Perhaps also adding into the mix the naive and in some cases, clearly disturbed, group of people we call our parents.